I can't give you the answer you want for 2 reasons, but I can give you something you may find more important (though perhaps not initially)
Reason 1: I can't tell you who your soulmate will be because, despite what the movies may say, I don't believe there is a single soulmate out there that we were "made for". In a way, though, I believe all human beings are soulmates to a degree. God made us to need Him first and foremost, and to create that kind of absolute dependency on another human would actually take away from our relationship with Him (which in the end is the whole point of life). I am married, and if anyone in this world were to be my soulmate, it would be my wife, whom I love dearly and who brings me much joy. However, we have no doubt that if one of us were to pass away, the other (though hurt for a long time) would recover and live and possibly even marry again. The soulmate idea is that there's someone out there that is perfect for you (like two matching puzzle pieces) and that when you mesh with them, there will be no conflict… only joy. That myth, however, is one of the biggest causes of divorce in the world today. The truth is, when you love someone and you decide that being with them is worth the pain, you commit to each other (and make increasing commitments like exclusive dating, engagement and marriage). Through that process, you are two very different puzzle pieces and you will run into lots of conflict (the person you love the most has the greatest ability to hurt you). As you grow and live and love, you chisle away at your own heart, your own puzzle piece, making you fit with your spouse who is doing the same thing to her heart.
Reason 2: I can't tell you who you will marry because God doesn't want us to know the future. He wants us to concentrate on today, doing the best we can with what we've got, and he takes care of the rest. The bible says He's a "lamp unto our feet" shining the light only a few steps ahead. He wants us to trust Him. "But seek first his kingdom and his righteousness, and all these things will be given to you as well. Therefore do not worry about tomorrow, for tomorrow will worry about itself. Each day has enough trouble of its own." (Matthew 6:33-34) There is another power out there, and it has in the past done fortune telling, but friend, it is not looking out for your best interests! I caution you strongly against dabbling with powers that you or any other human really don't understand! The Bible says to "Be self-controlled and alert. Your enemy the devil prowls around like a roaring lion looking for someone to devour." (1 Peter 5:8)
WHAT I CAN GIVE YOU
1 Peter 5:7 says to cast your cares on God, because "He cares for you!" What we in our men's bible study have discovered is that, God provides us with a mate when we are ready, and not before. Consistantly married men have reported that they didn't get together with their mate until they were no longer searching for her. Women report being seriously turned off by those that "have 'desperate' written across their face". If your first pursuit is a mate, you will not meet God or the right person. If, on the other hand, your #1 goal is to know and love God, to "seek first the kingdom of God" then all the rest will be "added unto you". Plus, when the right person comes along, you will be mature enough to be good for them. If you do not grow in God, you will almost certainly ruin what could have been a beautiful relationship.
I hope this was helpful. Please feel free to ask anything else.
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